Desperately Seeking Authenticity

desperately-seeking-authenticityI’ve been blogging here for three and a half years now. From my very first post, my biggest aim has been authenticity. You will never be able to pigeon hole my blog, because I write about such a diverse amount of things.

Real things: real life, lived by real people. No Insta-perfection around here.

I don’t pretend to be something I’m not, but I must admit that I’ve held back some of my opinions. For fear that there would be a backlash. Or (heaven forbid) brands would no longer want to collaborate with me. I’ve had enough of that mindset though.

I’m done caring what other people think on such a superficial level

I cannot and will not spend every minute of every day on social media. All the chat about ‘building your brand’ and ‘engaging with your audience’ drives me mad.

I have a husband and three (demanding) children who are my top priority. Next comes the house, and the food we eat and the life admin. All these things are much more important than my stats.

Don’t get me wrong, my blog is also important to me. It’s been an emotional outlet when I couldn’t afford counselling, and has seen me through some tough times. It’s also been a fantastic stepping stone to becoming a writer. In many respects I’m doing my dream job. When circumstances allow me to of course, which they haven’t recently. Needless to say it’s been a big source of frustration.

I truly admire bloggers who are flourishing, and succeeding in this ever-saturated market. The ones whose children are in full time education, who have made blogging their job, and are damn good at it. The ones who are clearly living life and loving it. I don’t see a huge amount of them though.

I see an awful lot of people talking loudly about nothing in particular. I find the noise offensive, and the need to tune out to it overwhelming.

Untitled design (3)It’s why I don’t read many other blogs anymore. Surely I can’t be the only one who feels this way?

To try and offset some of the noise, I started meditating. It’s something I’ve been wanting to do for a very long time, and it’s been an incredibly positive addition to my chaotic life. I can highly recommend it!

If 2016 has taught me nothing else, it’s that most people revel in their echo chambers

Not everyone though, and I’m grateful that there are lots of good folk out there. Ones who are willing to peel their eyes away from trashy TV long enough to embrace opinions different to their own. These are the people who will have your back when you need support. 

As for me, I’m not the sort of person who smiles to your face, and sniggers behind your back. I won’t only tell you what you want to hear. I stand up for my beliefs and try and have a moral and social conscience. I will never win a most popular blogger award, because I am useless at playing the blogging game.

write from the heartOr any game for that matter. I have always, and will always wear my heart on my sleeve. I’m an open book, have a read and if you like what you see then come back next time.      

I’ve gone massively off piste here. What was supposed to be a thank you to my lovely readers for their continued support has gone a little melancholy. It is new year’s eve after all, this day is always an emotional one. After the year I’ve had, along with so many others, I’ll be glad to close the door on it.

On a more positive note, here’s a sneaky peek of what’s in store next year (click on the coloured text for backstories)

  • Lots of posts about health and well-being and how much diet affects both
  • Updates as I go back onto the super strict GAPS diet (which will include giving up booze and coffee)
  • Recipes and tutorials on making truly healthy food. Specifically gluten free, dairy free, not just refined sugar free but low natural sugar
  • Updates on my family’s accidental home education journey
  • More posts written by my 7yo autistic daughter Polly
  • Updates on a brand new book about autism that we’re writing
  • Editing updates for Picking up the Pieces, and the journey to getting it published
  • Updates on Become the Best You – and why it’s unlikely that I’ll be giving subsequent books to my current publisher

I hope that you’ve liked what you see in the list above enough to not hit the unsubscribe button ūüėČ

Here’s looking at an awesome 2017 all round. May it bring you health, happiness and authenticity!